Try this. Ask a friend or a group of friends to tell you stories about times when they were happy. Just listen and encourage everyone else to listen. Join in yourself. Then do the same about times when they and you made someone else happy. You will be astonished how interesting, inspiring and enjoyable this will be!
We did this with some friends and found that the hard part was choosing which happy experience to share. That is a nice problem. I was astonished how much people lit up when they told a story about when they made someone else happy. It looks like the most predictable way to be happy is to make someone else happy! When we get this simple idea accepted and practised, the world will change for the better.
Sharing happy stories works well with a big group. Just get people into small groups of four or five and proceed as above. I ran an event for fifty people from many different cultures and it was a delight.
I used the same exercise at the start of a meeting to build the relationship between people from two organisations. It worked astonishingly well. The people realised how much they had in common and this helped them build strong mutual cooperation and trust.
Here’s a moving story from someone who learned about this recently.
It, of course, helped me too….listening with open heart….open ears….letting her ‘unfurl’…..physically she seemed to do this…amazing!
I will be using this ‘oh so simple’ idea……in my day to day life…
I loved it!!”
This is a very simple application of the principles of Appreciative Inquiry You get what you look for.