Coconsulting – Introductory Session
I have used coconsulting, a simple process for giving and receiving help, for many years. It helps you think more clearly and act more powerfully when faced with the frustrations of being an independent OD Consultant.
At the event, I will show you the method, describe the theory and invite you to try it out for yourself. You will discover what general principles make for effective consulting.
Form of the event
- Introduction to the workshop
- Hear theory about helping effectively and a description of coconsulting.
- Demonstration of coconsulting with a volunteer followed by a review
- We all coconsult with each other
- Review of what works and dealing with any difficulties
- Planning what to do next
- My objective is to show you how to use coconsulting to help each other grow. We deserve the best help we can get, and that can be from each other. The methods can also help people in an organisation help each other. The session will work best with listening, support and confidentiality. Can we give that to each other? I welcome feedback if you are uncomfortable or want something different.
- Circle. Say your name, what you do, what you want from this session, and one thing going well.
- Some theory. My basic assumption about human nature is that people are inherently good. We are easily hurt, and that makes it hard to think clearly. You think more clearly and feel better when you talk to someone who is listening. Listening works best when we take it in turns. The quality of the attention we give our clients is key to our ability to help. Respect, Genuineness and Empathy are probably more important than any “technique”. We specify no method in coconsulting. The only fixed points are to have equal time and take turns.
- I give a brief demonstration of my approach to coconsulting with a volunteer. The volunteer raises any real issue. The topic does not have to be heavy.
- Review the demonstration. What did I do that helped? What would you have done differently?
- The participants work in pairs for 15 minutes each way. The subjects are up to you, as are the methods. If you can’t decide, then you could try “A happy memory, something you would like to change and how to increase the amount of support in your life or work”. Concentrate on intently listening when you are the consultant.
- After each session, the pair discusses what the listener did that helped for up to five minutes. They also identify any difficulties.
- List together what the consultants did that helped. What common factors are there? List the difficulties and how to respond to them.
- Decide follow-up actions. Where and how could you continue this process.
- Review the workshop. What did you learn? What worked? What could be better next time?
For more on the theory and practice visit the reevaluation counselling site