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Coconsulting - a neat way to become a better consultant and get and give some help!
 

Background 

I sometimes find trying to help people, groups and an organisation change and develop a lonely and stressful business. I would rather it was fun more of the time! It has been hard to think about what needs to be done and to overcome my own feelings of powerlessness. These feelings are very common among people who work in organisations, as trainers, consultants or managers. This has certainly been my experience both as an internal and external consultant. Some years ago a colleague and I found a way through these difficulties that worked for us. I have been using it for years and would like to share it with you.  

What is coconsulting? 

In its simplest form, two people take turns helping each other. For say half an hour one person is the client and works with the other who is her/his consultant. The consultant and client can use any method that the client is willing to try. The consultant will need to listen to the client well first to understand the nature of the problem or issue before moving to a method. Often just listening attentively and asking questions is enough. 

The client can help by being assertive about what she or he needs during the process. If the consultants approach is not working, the best clients will say so, then you can get back on track. Also, if the approach is working and the client says, "This is great!" the consultant will deliver more. 

The consultant is offering her or his best professional time and must keep her/his focus on the client. This is much more demanding and usually much more helpful than a simple conversation where the focus moves between the participants.

At the end of the time the participants discuss for a few minutes what the client gained and what the consultant did that helped. They can also talk about how another session could be better next time. Then the two people swap roles and repeat the whole process.

The rules

The "rules" are very simple but you must follow them if this method it is to work.

Keep to your agreement on time otherwise one person will feel exploited.

As consultant keep your attention on the client's concerns or he or she will feel let down.

Use a method of helping that is appropriate to the issue and acceptable to the client

Have a clear agreement about confidentiality before you start and stick to it.

It is not necessary to agree to any method in advance of knowing what the client wants to work on. This neatly eliminates any arguments about there being one right way to consult. These arguments can easily get in the way of consultants co-operating with each other. In this way coconsulting differs from cocounselling where the parties agree to take turns and to also use the same theory and method. This can be very effective and is an option coconsultants can use if they choose to.

What are the benefits? 

In order to be effective in any role, you need to be able to think clearly and act powerfully. Any effective consultancy process will help the client think more broadly and more clearly about a problem or opportunity. Simply explaining something to another person who is listening will often do this. Often the person talking will discover new possibilities and find new energy to act. He or she will feel more valuable because someone else has bothered to listen. Sometimes someone who is not in your situation can offer a new viewpoint. I remember someone from a different organisation asking me "Have you talked to him about it?" The person in question was a senior manager and I had made the unconscious, and wrong, decision that I could not talk to him from my "lowly" level. 

In the consultant role, coconsulting gives a very easy and non-threatening way to find out how to help effectively. If you are going to try new things, there is much less risk in working with a peer than with an internal or external client where you may only have one chance to make a difference. 

It also helps you to understand what another person's position is. This can be very useful when people come from different organisations or different roles in the same organisation. It is an excellent way of building bridges.  

You can also use a "mini-session"; People then coconsult for (say) five minutes each way. This can be valuable at the beginning of a development event. You might ask people to talk about what they want from the event and what they will do to make it succeed. It is easier to think out loud when someone else is listening. These questions help people think about what they want and their responsibility for making it happen. 

I have found mini-sessions invaluable if a meeting or workshop is getting stuck. Perhaps feelings are running high and no one is listening very well. If you ask people to go into pairs and have five minutes each way on how they feel and what needs to happen next, then they will often come up with an elegant solution to their problem. You have increased the amount of attention people have for each other markedly and this produces better thinking. 

Coconsulting across an organisation or a society would increase the amount of understanding, because whatever method you use you have to listen for it to work. It also reduces prejudice, if you have met, understood and helped an "X", you will never again agree with anyone that "All "X's" are like that!" An "X" could be a man or woman, a black or a Jewish person, a homosexual or a heterosexual, working or owning class or someone from the finance department! The latter may be funny and exciting rather than the conventional stereotype. 

How to introduce coconsulting? 

If you want to set up a coconsulting relationship for yourself, the easiest way is to ask someone from your network of fellow professionals or colleagues if they would like to try an idea out. Explain the simple rules, see the box above, and then decide who should go first as client.  

If you go first, choose a real topic but not one that is too deep or scary, and a relatively short time. Then tell the consultant what you got from the session and all the things she/he did well, if she/he asks for ideas on how to do it better, then offer constructive ideas gently. 

If the other person is the client, remember to tell her or him that are doing well, she/he will be doing the best they can and will be anxious. Use the gentlest techniques that will work. This is not a good time to show off. Afterwards, you can ask what worked and how it could be better, if you want, as before. 

This is a reciprocal relationship. It is tempting to give your client more of the time than you. This can be an unconscious way of showing your superiority or of avoiding being vulnerable. It does not help, especially at the beginning of your coconsulting relationship. 

To introduce it to a group, I would usually explain the basic ideas and invite a volunteer from the group to work with me, live, on a simple but real issue for ten minute or so. The group would observe attentively and then we would discuss how the client and I worked together, but not the content of the session. The client usually gets enough out of it and the process is transparent enough for people to feel confident about having a go for themselves. When they do and have twenty minutes each way with a little discussion between sessions, they find that most have a new insight into their issue and have thoroughly enjoyed talking and listening. We might end with listing the things that work as client and as consultant. 

Most people are astonished how powerful this experience is. 

Acknowledgments and References. 

I would like to thank John Coleman-Smith and Jef Mason, both then of ICI, for introducing me to this idea. Thank you to my current co‑consultants Catherine Joyce,  June Whetherly and Alan Trangmar for working with me patiently and helpfully over the years.

If you want to take these ideas a lot further there is much of interest in the literature of re‑evaluation counselling, available via http://www.rc.org/ and co-counselling international http://co-counselling.info

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