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To show that appreciation and being positive is valuable.
To help people to know each other deeply
To build trust and mutual respect in a group or team
To build personal self confidence and self esteem
The participants are in a small face to face group. In a larger group when time is short, demonstrate the process with one person in front of the group. Then break people into groups of four and five.
Each person has a turn as the focus of the group.
After everyone has had a turn, ask people how they feel about themselves and the group and what they have learned.
People develop in confidence and self esteem as they discover their achievements and skills are valuable. They appreciate the depths in other people and want to know more. The shared and rather intense experience builds group cohesion and trust. People enjoy it too.
I find it best to be quite light-hearted within a clear structure. I model listening and take part myself if the group is small.
Use it for team building and for increasing self esteem and mutual trust. The story below shows how powerful it can be.
Joy Knudson learned about this method from this site. She adapted it to use with a group of young mothers in a welfare-to-work programme. They had a history of not working effectively in groups, whether in school or on jobs, and tended to avoid true empathy or vulnerability. Underneath their resistance lay poor self-esteem and a lack of belief in their own abilities to cope. Most of their conversations and energy revolved around what they -and everyone else - did wrong, and who should be blamed for it.
When Joy used the "Strength Building" exercise to have them share a time they triumphed despite their circumstances, their stories ranged from regaining custody of a baby taken away due to drug abuse to helping their children survive periods of homelessness. They listened to each other deeply and compassionately, exchanged heartfelt, affirming feedback, and slowly realized that the ability to succeed in their stories proved they had strengths and qualities they could access in other situations.
Joy then provided them each with a card that contained the positive feedback from the other group members, plus her own comment that broadened the strength(s) shown into an affirmation they could apply in more general circumstances. At a meeting several months later, most reported they had kept those cards, posting them on bathroom mirrors or refrigerator doors, instantly retrieving the sense of strength and pride they had experienced Joy has since shared the exercise at regional meetings, having found it effective for both opening up communication and fostering growth with clients.
Thank you, Joy, for contributing this moving story, and doing this great work, Nick
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